Therapy for Non-Monogamous Relationships in New York
with Aleja Parsons, PhD
Non-Monogamous Relationships deserve no judgement.
It can be hard to find a therapist who understands that love is not always confined to dyads.
Whether you're non-monogamous and that has nothing to do with why you want to come to therapy or you’re currently in a monogamous relationship but want support opening up, I am here to help.
Clients come to me when:
You’re looking to open your relationship but don’t know where to start
You’re struggling to manage conflict
You’ve recently added someone to your polycule and want to address new relationship dynamics
You and your partner(s) want different relationship structures
Testimonials
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Dr. Parsons changed my life. I have struggled with therapy in the past, but found that Dr. Parsons was able to guide me through the experience in a way that felt meaningful and fulfilling.
—Client hesitant to start therapy.
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I can’t even begin to explain how incredible of an experience this has been. Every session my partner and I left with our minds blown by what we had worked through!! I’m so grateful!
—Previous client.
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I had a lot of fear that things would not get better, but Dr. Parsons helped me learn new things about myself and my partner that better prepared me to tackle difficult moments.
—Partners who started therapy fighting all the time.
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This truly changed my relationship with my partner and myself for the better. It also helped me on an individual scale, which I did not expect going into it!!
—Previous client
How we’ll work together in therapy
I am an evidenced-based therapist which means I use approaches that work. Here are a few of the interventions we may use in our work together:
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EFT helps you heal attachment wounds. Grounded in the science of emotions and attachment theory, EFT helps you understand what sets you and your partner(s) off, why. and how to change.
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IBCT gives you a roadmap to understand you and your partner(s). It teaches how to make some change to bring you closer and how to accept and appreciate the traits that make you different.
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PREP is a toolbox of tools and skills to keep relationships happy and healthy. From communication skills to having more fun, PREP provides exercises, worksheets, and homework to make your relationships stronger.
About Me
Hi, I’m Dr. Parsons.
I’ve helped hundreds of relationships heal old wounds and create new strong, healthy, and loving bonds. I started my career as a researcher at NYU, where I sat at tables with the leaders of the field and learned interventions directly from their founders. After 10+ years, I know what works.
I now spend most of my time working directly with clients in my small private practice where therapy is collaborative, goal focused, and inclusive. Reach out for a free consultation. It’s the first step on the road back to each other.
Training:
PhD Clinical Psychology, University of Denver
EFT Externship, Ackerman Institute
Psychology Predoctoral Internship Training Program, Washington DC VA Medical Center
Family Program Psychology Practicum, Department of Veterans Affairs Eastern Colorado Health Care System Denver Medical Center
Professional Appointments:
Adjunct Instructor, The Family Institute at Northwestern University
Assistant Professor, New York University
Clinical Supervisor, Golden Psychology
Education & Credentials
Get Started in 4 Steps
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Reach out using the contact form. Share a bit about what’s bringing you to therapy- no need to overthink it. I’ll get back to you with next steps.
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After receiving your contact, options will be provided for having a consultation or directly scheduling an appointment.
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If we decide to work together, in our first full session, we’ll dive into what’s been feeling stuck or painful. I’ll help you both slow things down, name what’s not working, and begin mapping a path forward.
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We’ll work together weekly to build stronger communication, heal past wounds, and create more connections. Every step is tailored to you.